| No Images? Click here   By the time the weekend rolls around, it can be tempting to do absolutely nothing at all. And while basking in zero responsibilities sounds wonderful, it’s not always feasible — especially with kids and family commitments. But there are some things the happiest couples make sure to do come Saturday and Sunday, including getting outside, preparing for the week ahead together and prioritizing physical connection.They also strike a healthy balance between “me” time and “we” time. According to marriage and family therapist Winifred M. Reilly, the happiest couples are those who feel connected without being joined at the hip.“Maybe your thing is to cook dinner together or curl up in front of the TV or head out to a movie. But what about the Saturday morning spin class you like? Or the mystery novel you’re dying to finish?” she said. “The happiest couples... know the importance of both ‘me’ time and ‘we’ time and make sure to support plenty of both.”Read on for more on how the happiest couples spend their weekends. And TGI-almost-F!Xo, Ashley Rockman In case you missed it
 Ask an expertA reader writes, “My boyfriend doesn't believe in therapy. I've suggested that we go to premarital counseling but he isn't supportive of the idea. He doesn't like the idea of talking to someone who doesn't know us about our problems. I've suggested that we could talk to a mutual friend, but he doesn't like that idea either. When we fight, I feel like I am always the one to bring up the issue and ask him what he thinks and feels. It's very exhausting since I feel like I'm not only stating my own feelings on the topic, but I also have to coax him to share his thoughts. Even when I stress that think it's important to keep an open mind about therapy, he thinks we can resolve our issues on our own without a therapist. Any idea on how I could approach the topic of therapy/couples counseling without having him shut it down so quickly?”Aaron Anderson, a marriage and family therapist based in Denver, Colorado, is here to answer this week’s question. Here’s what he had to say:“This is a question that comes up a lot. You’d be surprised how many people want to go to couples counseling but their partner is reluctant to go. You mentioned that you feel like you’re always the one to talk about the fights and that you have to coax him to talk about his thoughts. It sounds like his reluctance to go to counseling is because he doesn’t like talking about his feelings. He doesn’t talk about them with you so it makes sense that he doesn’t want to pay someone to go talk about them, either. You may just have an emotionally shut off man on your hands."The truth is, all you can do is ask him to go with you. There’s no lever you can pull or knob you can turn that can make your partner suddenly want to go to counseling. Unless you’re willing to do some sneaky and manipulative things (like shut off sex or threaten to break up until he goes), all you can do is ask."That said, if you want to go to marriage counseling, go. Even if your partner won’t go with you, there’s still a lot you can get out of it that will help you fix the challenges in your relationship. Talk to the counselor before the appointment and make sure they know how to do marriage counseling with just one of the spouses there. Good luck!”
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