| No Images? Click here   During a team meeting the other week, we started talking about highly sensitive people — or HSPs, as they are referred to. I remarked that I’m probably an HSP; I get emotional easily, cry during arguments and am very quickly moved to tears during emotional movie or TV scenes. Reporter Kelsey Borresen let me know that there’s a specific set of criteria to determine whether or not someone is an HSP and directed me to a self-test to find out if I fit the bill. I didn’t.Unbeknownst to me, there is more to being a highly sensitive person than simply crying at the drop of a hat. Those who possess the highly sensitive personality trait pick up on subtle changes in their environment, are easily overstimulated by large crowds and loud noises and are deeply moved by the arts. They also are empathetic and thoughtful and make wonderful romantic partners and friends.If you’re not an HSP and are in a relationship with one, it can be tough to understand why your partner reacts in a particular way in certain situations. Kelsey asked HSPs what they wish their loved ones better understood about them. You can check out what they had to say here.Xo, Ashley Rockman In case you missed it
 Ask an expertA reader writes, “My husband and I have been together for over 10 years and married for four. My husband never expressed any interest in having children until recently. I’ve never wanted children and doubt that I’ll ever change my mind. We’ve had numerous conversations about this topic and he says he’s ‘fine’ with remaining child-free, but occasionally makes passive comments that still indicate his desire to have children. I’ve expressed to him that I feel some guilt at times for not letting him have what he wants but I don’t want to oblige that either and compromise my own happiness. He’s also aware of my insecurity that he might potentially leave me to be with someone who does want children even though he’s assured me that that wouldn’t happen. I can’t help but feel selfish at times but I know for a fact that having even one child would ruin the life I love as much as my husband.”Aaron Anderson, a marriage and family therapist based in Denver, Colorado, is here to answer this week’s question. Here’s what he had to say:“This happens a lot more than you might think in marriage, where your spouse changes and suddenly you two disagree on something that you used to agree about. But this is a good thing. Your spouse should change. Think about it, you don’t want your 40-year-old spouse to still think and act like he did when you met in your 20s. And as your spouse grows and changes, he’ll form different opinions, interests and goals. That doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed, it just means you have to be able to ride the tension with each other as you both grow and change.“If he’s not making too big of a big fuss about not having children and says he’s ‘fine,’ I wouldn’t worry about it. He might make passive comments but that’s just him trying to wrap his head around it and process it. As he processes it, there will be times when he’ll feel okay about it and times he won’t (which is when you’ll get the passive comments). Leave it up to him to decide if it becomes really important, and allow him the space to talk about it if/when that time comes. In the meantime, commiserate with him as he’s grieving not having children and ask him to commiserate with you when you feel selfish and guilty. That’s love when you can both commiserate with each other even when you disagree.”
#TBT  This is Joy and her husband Andre. You’d be surprised by the rude comments and questions they and other people in mixed-weight relationships get, ranging from “Does your spouse have a fat fetish?” to “Aren’t you attracted to people your own size?” Reporter Brittany Wong talked to mixed-weight couples about the most annoying things people have ever said to them. Read them and don’t ever repeat them. Links we love: 
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