| No Images? Click here   Sociopaths are not always easy to recognize. They may seem charming at first — almost too good to be true — but those attributes are calculated and used to draw a person in.“Sociopaths don’t look like the Joker and show up cackling and howling and ready to manipulate,” criminologist Scott Bonn recently told HuffPost. “They can appear to be the guy next door. And until you get to know them, you wouldn’t necessarily know they are sociopaths.”Think you may be in a relationship with one? Signs include volatile mood swings, big professions of love that feel hollow and a lack of friends or close relationships. Go here to see if your S.O. fits the bill.Xo, Ashley Rockman In case you missed it
 Ask an expertA reader writes, “What's a good way to talk to your spouse about their phone usage? I feel like I often tell my husband to put the phone down — when we're watching TV with the kids, for instance — but I just want him to be more mindful of it.”Aaron Anderson, a marriage and family therapist based in Denver, Colorado, is here to answer this week’s question. Here’s what he had to say:“When you’re with your husband and he picks up his phone, just ask him to put his phone down so you can be together without distractions. After a few times doing this, he’ll usually get that it’s becoming a problem. If he doesn’t get it, then you can have a conversation with him that goes something like this: ‘I feel like I’m always asking you to put your phone down. Would you mind being more mindful of how often you’re on your phone so that you can be more present when we’re together?’Telling him you want him to put it down so he can be present when you’re together usually goes pretty well. He’s less likely to feel judged or feel like you’re trying to be his parent. And most of the time, spouses want to be more present with each other too, so you usually won’t get many complaints from them when you put it that way!It’s also helpful to set boundaries about when and where it’s appropriate to use your cell phones. For example, some of the boundaries I recommend is to turn phones off during family dinners, on dates, at kids’ events (except to use the camera) and when you’re out with friends. One of my favorite boundaries I recommend for couples is to leave phones and tablets out of the bedroom. The bedroom is best used for other things (wink wink). Seriously, though, the bedroom is a place for couples. And I don’t just mean sex. It’s a place where a lot of important conversations happen and a lot of important plans get made. Taking your cell phone into your bedroom hinders these conversations.”
#TBT  Within 24 hours of his son being born, Jonathan Jui knew he had to document the funny, little moments that come with being a dad and a new family of three. Jonathan works in asset management in London by day, but at night, he doodles life with two-year-old Baobao — whose nickname means “little treasure” in Chinese — as well sweet, relatable scenes from his marriage. Check them out here. Links we love: 
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