Men describe the moment they knew their marriage was over Plus, misconceptions about having sex with a disability No Images? Click here Divorces on TV and in the movies seem so black and white; there’s some arguing, maybe an affair is exposed, one person yells, “I want a divorce!” and off to divorce court they go. The reality is a lot more nuanced; marriages break down over years — sometimes decades — before one or both partners realize that the relationship is unsalvageable.Just as lovebirds describe a moment they knew they had found “the one,” there is often a single moment divorcés can pinpoint when they knew their marriages were over. This week, we asked men to disclose the moment they knew that divorce was inevitable. In one poignant anecdote, a man named Bill describes hearing the words “I hate you” from his wife in the midst of an argument and knowing that she meant it. “There is no coming back from that four-letter word,” he said. Read the rest here.Xo, Ashley Rockman In case you missed it Dating in America is hard, but it’s even harder if you’re an Asian man. One OKCupid study from 2014 concluded that Asian men are found less desirable than other men on the app, and in a speed-dating study conducted at Columbia University, Asian men had the most difficulty getting a second date. It’s not uncommon to see dating app profiles that say, “Sorry, no Asians.” This week, reporter Brittany Wong talked to Asian-American men, psychologists and professors about their experiences. It’s a can’t miss. Ask an expert A reader writes, “A dear friend of mine was dumped rather suddenly by her long-term boyfriend last year. After it happened, understandably, it's all she could think and talk about, and as her close friend, I was there to listen and support her. But six months later, the vast majority of our conversations revolve around her ex and the other men she's been seeing. Mutual friends of ours have taken note of this as well. One told me she realized she hadn't even shared some of the important things going on in her own life because she can't seem to get a word in edgewise when they're together. What's the best way to handle this situation? Is there a nice way to bring this up, while still being supportive?”Washington DC-based psychotherapist Elisabeth J. LaMotte, founder of the DC Counseling and Psychotherapy Center, is here to answer this week’s question. Here’s what she had to say:“One-sided conversations can feel disappointing, especially if they become the norm with a dear friend who, I presume, used to engage in more balanced communications. It sounds like the sudden breakup has been so traumatic that it has damaged your friend’s sense of who she is and how to function as a separate, individual self. Rejection is incredibly painful, but breakups can be wonderful opportunities for growth and reflection. If your friend is alienating her friends by over-focusing on her ex and her current dates, an unfortunate added layer is that she is probably equally undefined during her dating experiences. This probably compromises her ability to choose a suitable partner. But that will be up to her to figure out, and there are limits to the amount of help and guidance a friend can give.If you happen to have personal life or dating experience that connects to this topic, it could be worth folding that into your attempt to create a shift in the conversation. Your instincts are right on target: the key is to be ‘nice’ and ‘supportive’ as you describe above. In other words, you can get away with saying anything to anyone if you are kind and simultaneously consider their emotional ego. Try saying something like this:‘I’ve always enjoyed our talks and our time together. And I wish you had not been through this difficult breakup, although I must admit I think you are better off without what’s his name. I value our friendship and so I have something I want to share. I notice that in my own romantic life, my relationships with guys and with friends feel more satisfying when I make dating less of an overall focus and instead prioritize ways to make my independent life interesting and full. We used to talk more along these lines – about what we like to do, about our views of current events, about where we plan to travel. I miss those conversations and wonder if we can try to get back to that. Do you think we could give that a try?’”If you have a relationship question that you would like answered in a newsletter, please e-mail it to us at relationships@huffpost.com. #TBT It’s often assumed that people with disabilities don’t have a desire for sex or the physical ability to have sex to begin with. That’s a misconception. We asked disability advocates to share some of the worst things they’ve heard while dating, and their answers may shock you. 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Trump pardons conservative provocateur for campaign finance violation Is Martha Stewart next? No Images? Click here Dinesh D’Souza Pardoned By Trump For Campaign Finance Violation President Donald Trump on Thursday issued “a full pardon” to Dinesh D’Souza, a conservative activist and provocateur who regularly peddles conspiracy theories.D’Souza pleaded guilty in 2014 to violating campaign finance laws with an illegal donation to a GOP Senate candidate.Trump announced the pardon in a tweet, claiming D’Souza “was treated very unfairly by our government!”All of Trump’s presidential pardons have been outside the standard process for issuing pardons run by the Department of Justice’s Office of the Pardon Attorney.Also on Thursday, Trump said on Air Force One that he’s considering issuing pardons or commuting sentences for former Illinois Gov. Rod Blagojevich (D) and cook and TV personality Martha Stewart. Blagojevich was on Trump’s “Celebrity Apprentice” TV series, and Stewart hosted “The Apprentice: Martha Stewart,” a spinoff of Trump’s “The Apprentice” series. READ MORE WHAT ELSE IS HAPPENING? A D.C. judge on Thursday dismissed felony charges against 10 individuals arrested while protesting President Donald Trump’s inauguration, finding that the government violated the due process rights of defendants by failing to turn over evidence it obtained from a right-wing media organization. READ MORE Secretary of State Mike Pompeo continued to pressure North Korea’s top nuclear weapons negotiator about his country’s possible denuclearization on Wednesday as the fate of the planned summit between the two countries hangs in the balance. READ MORE Is Trump's latest pardon a message to his former aides caught in the Russia probe? "Of course," says one former White House aide. READ MORE ICYMI Does Rush Limbaugh matter anymore? The shock jock still commands a huge audience, but he’s not standing out in the era of Donald Trump. Will Democrats back a former Bush official who hates Trump as much as they do? Resistance icon Richard Painter seeks Minnesota’s Democratic Senate nomination, despite having served a GOP president. More than 45 years after it was approved by Congress, Illinois has become the 37th state to ratify the Equal Rights Amendment. Want more? Mitt Romney Reveals His 2016 Vote For President Kim Kardashian And Donald Trump Met To Talk About Prison Reform Rudy Giuliani Claims Yankee Stadium Boos Were A Show Of ‘Love’ HuffPost is now a part of Oath and a part of Verizon. On May 25, 2018 we introduced a new Oath Privacy Policy which will explain how your data is used and shared. Learn More.How will Trump’s administration impact you? Sign up for our email and find out. Did a friend send you this? Subscribe here. Like what you see? Share it. Want more? Here are two other newsletters you'll love: The Morning Email and Must Reads.©2017 HuffPost | 770 Broadway, New York, NY 10003 You are receiving this email because you signed up for updates from HuffPost Feedback | Privacy Policy | Unsubscribe Trump pardons conservative provocateur for campaign finance violation Is Martha Stewart next? ... Read more » 3:11 PM