| No Images? Click here   A lot has been published lately dispelling the myth that moderate alcohol consumption is good for your health. But how are you supposed to avoid drinking if you’re actively dating right now? If anything, dating makes people drink more than they would otherwise; surveys have suggested as much.While a glass of wine to calm your nerves before meeting that Tinder date may seem like a good idea, it will actually make you worse at finding love. “Drinking gives me a false sense of connection with a person,” writer Zara Barie told HuffPost. “If I’ve had two glasses of Champagne I can feel chemistry with anyone.”So what’s the solution? This week, reporter Brittany Wong explored the ways drinking impacts modern dating and how to be the best version of yourself on dates. See what our experts had to say, and pass on the info to your single friends.Xo, Ashley Rockman In case you missed it
 Ask an expertA reader writes, “My 18-year-old stepson frequently comes to our house for the weekend, and his father allows his girlfriend to come spend the night with him. My husband thinks it's great that his son is having sex, but I keep thinking that the girl is 17, and therefore underage. I'm not sure his mother knows, and it feels like he's staying here a lot more because his father allows him to bring his girlfriend along. Because it's my stepson, I don't feel that I can say anything. Should I? What should I do?”Washington DC-based psychotherapist Elisabeth J. LaMotte, founder of the DC Counseling and Psychotherapy Center, is here to answer this week’s question. Here’s what she had to say:“Is your stepson’s girlfriend letting her parents know that she is staying over? Or might they think she is staying at her girlfriend’s house during her sleepovers with your family? Is your stepson using condoms? Is his girlfriend using additional birth control in case the condom breaks? Are you hesitant to speak with your husband? Or your stepson? Or both? Stepparents often tread lightly and worry that their interventions and input may cross a line. But actions that are taking place in your home reflect on you, and you should feel comfortable with activities happening under your roof. I’m convinced there is a productive way to ask some important questions and share your concerns. You have an important role as a stepmother and may be able to help facilitate conversations about sex and relationships that will be therapeutic for everyone.It is reasonable (and respectful) to raise concerns about behavior taking place without your stepson’s mother’s knowledge. If it turns out she is unaware that her teenage son is having sex, and you are accommodating your stepson’s sexual relationship behind her back, this secrecy could damage the dynamic between all of you for many years to come. There may be additional background that has informed your husband’s decision to keep her out of the loop, but it is worth gaining personal clarity on this topic. It is also reasonable to ask that you and your husband discuss your stepson’s sleepovers with his girlfriend’s parents. If they are not aware of the sleepovers, this may be quite complicated, but that’s all the more reason that an honest, respectful conversation is long overdue. If your husband has not talked directly with your stepson about his decision to enter a sexual relationship, that conversation is very important.Read Deborah Roffman’s books “Sex and Sensibility” and “Talk to Me First” for strategies to facilitate open discussions about sex and sexuality with teenagers. “I’d Listen to My Parents if They’d Just Shut Up” by Dr. Anthony Wolf would also be a useful resource to prepare for what may be a series of overdue conversations. You don’t need to read any of these books cover-to-cover to prepare for your approach to a discussion; instead, think of the books as ongoing points of reference. It sounds like it will be important to speak first with your husband and then, together, with your stepson.”If you have a relationship question that you would like answered in a future newsletter, please e-mail it to us at relationships@huffpost.com.
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