| No Images? Click here   Coworkers in my office are in one of two camps: Either they’ve hit their capacity for royal wedding news, or they’re voraciously reading every last little detail that comes out. If you’re part of the former group, I’m sorry. Saturday’s nuptials were a huge day in the relationships world, so I’d be remiss if I didn’t touch on it at all! But the rest of this newsletter is filled with dating trends, helpful financial advice and gorgeous pics — feel free to scroll straight ahead for that.And for you royals fans: We have body language experts dissecting Meghan’s mom’s moment-by-moment interactions with the royal family. We also asked royal historians to compare Harry and Meghan’s wedding to William and Kate’s 2011 nuptials; key differences included the walk down the aisle (so filled with drama leading up to the big day!) and wedding service (that MLK quote!). And if you still haven’t had your fill, these sweet illustrations inspired by the royal wedding are icing on the lemon elderflower cake.Xo, Ashley Rockman In case you missed it
 Ask an expertA reader writes, “My boyfriend and I struggle with how to split bills for events and activities that pertain to each others' friends or families. Should he be responsible for hotel, travel and gifts for my friend's out-of-town wedding, and vice versa? What's a good, productive way to have this discussion and do you have any advice for how to divvy it up?”Ryan Howes, a clinical psychologist based in Pasadena, California, is here to answer this week’s question. This is what he had to say:“For starters, I applaud you for recognizing that talking about finances is essential in a healthy relationship. With at least 72% of adults feeling some degree of financial stress, and money concerns as a primary reason for divorce, you’re wise to start talking about money early and often in your relationship. You’re establishing habits that will serve you well in your future.So, how do you hold this discussion? For money talks, I typically recommend striking when the iron is cold — meaning this sort of conversation is best held when you both are relaxed instead of trying to hash this out when the check comes or in the middle of another argument. As boring as it may sound, some couples schedule a weekly time to talk finances so they know to prepare and don’t feel like it’s sneaking up on them. And then you both just lay your cards on the table: here’s what I’d like to do, here’s how much it will cost and here’s how much I can spend. If you both can learn to do this non-defensively and try to problem solve together, you’re building healthy collaboration skills and working as a team. Instead of ‘me versus you,’ you’re making it ‘us versus financial limitations,’ and this battle always feels better when you’re in a partnership.To your specific question, it will probably depend on how serious the two of you are. If you are inviting your new boyfriend to your friend’s out-of-town wedding, or your parents’ anniversary, or your high-school reunion, as fun as this all might be, you’re inviting him to do something he wouldn’t normally do. It’s not a mutually planned vacation to a neutral destination; you’re asking him to accompany you to an event that is important to you — and in cases like this, it would be customary for you to pay. Or at least offer to pay for everything — maybe he’ll insist on paying for part of it. Or, if financing the whole thing is a problem, using the format above, you might sit down at a calm moment and say, ‘I’d really like to bring you to my friend’s wedding, and I can cover your airfare and lodging, but I don’t think I have enough for meals. Would you like to come, and if so, could you chip in for food?’Couples who have been dating a while and are closer to making a serious commitment have likely made enough of these trips in both directions that they just split the cost. Or, I’ll pay for this one and you pay for the next. If the relationship is stable enough that you’re planning several trips in advance, you’re basically sharing finances at this point, and the inviter-invitee formality becomes less important. Yes, we always go to your Dad’s for Thanksgiving, I’ll make the reservations.The main thing is, you’re using situations like these to talk about money and what it means to you. And if you’re communicating regularly and respectfully about finances, it doesn’t need to be a problem. It might even bring you closer together.” #TBT  Several times a year, wedding photography site Junebug Weddings holds a contest for the best engagement photos. This time around, nearly 6,000 images from all over the world were submitted, but only 50 photos made the cut. Here are our 23 favorite pics from the collection. Links we love:   HuffPost is now a part of Oath and a part of Verizon. On May 25th 2018 we will be introducing a new Oath Privacy Policy which will explain how your data is used and shared. Learn More.No moon dust. No B.S. Just a completely essential daily guide to achieving the good life. Subscribe here. Like what you see? Share it.Can't get enough? You'll also love HuffPost's Entertainment newsletter.©2018 HuffPost | 770 Broadway, New York, NY 10003 |
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