| No Images? Click here  Some days, as you walk your kids to bed, you can’t help but think “I’m DONE with parenting for the day.” Because some days are way more exhausting than others: Your kids just wake up on the wrong side of the bed or whine to no end, and no matter how much strength you manage to muster you just can’t handle them. And no amount of mindful breathing or moments to yourself will change that.I experienced that this weekend and it took all my patience to power through. I don’t want to yell at my kids any more than the next mom wants to, so as I’ve noted here before, I’m actively working on taking a beat. By last night, my eldest could sense my frustration with him and was clingy. It was the last straw. I calmly read to him and then left him in his room reading more books.I’m learning, slowly but surely, to walk away. Yelling and tantrums don’t do anyone any good. So instead of holding him a little bit longer (which maybe I should have done), I left him. My goal in that was to give him the sense that he’d done something wrong -- he hadn’t listened all weekend and knew it, he talked back to me -- and I think (dear God, I hope) it worked. I want my kids to be able to read people’s faces and sense their feelings. I want them to deeply know that their actions affect people.So tell me. What do you do when you’ve had enough and walking away isn’t working? What’s worked for you? As always, I can be reached at katea@huffpost.comGood luck out there. LOL OMGFor when your kid is keeping you awakeBlack History Month is as good a time as any to celebrate the work of black authors. To help get you started, Caroline Bologna put together the 50 most unmissable books by black authors from the past five years. More stories from the trenches:   HuffPost is now a part of Oath and a part of Verizon. On May 25, 2018 we introduced a new Oath Privacy Policy which will explain how your data is used and shared. Learn More.©2018 HuffPost | 770 Broadway, New York, NY 10003 |
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