The 8 questions sex therapists get asked most frequently

It’s getting hot in here No Images? Click here       People often wonder what goes on in relationships behind closed doors. But an even better door to open is that of a sex therapist’s office. There, people really reveal their deepest desires and ask things they wouldn’t bring up to friends and family. Naturally, we had to find out what people talk about in that safe space. This week, Kelsey Borresen asked sex therapists for the questions they get asked most frequently. Some may surprise you. It’s not just sex therapists that can help reignite the spark in the bedroom, however. With age comes wisdom, and sex is no different. We asked men and women in their 60s about what they wish they had known about sex when they were in their 20s. Here are their most enlightening pieces of wisdom. Xo, Ashley Rockman   In case you missed it Talk about having your cake and eating it too: “Cushioning” is when someone maintains a close relationship with a friend or colleague that they can fall back on if their primary romantic relationship doesn’t pan out. It’s also often referred to as a “backburner relationship.” Worried your significant other could be in one? We’ve got you covered. Ask an expert   A reader writes, “I'm wondering how to meet a man. I am in my mid 50s and I have never been married. I have single friends that just can’t seem to meet men to date, let alone be in relationships with. We are smart, well-educated, employed (or self-employed). I have found that men in their 50-60s want younger women. I tried internet dating but I either get no response, or they were men scamming me. None of my friends or neighbors have single friends. I tried volunteering, hoping I would find a group of nice men, not only to date but to be friends with but without any luck. Do you have suggestions and thoughts on where women in their mid-50s to early 60s can meet a man — even for friendships?” Relationship expert Kailen Rosenberg, a celebrity matchmaker, is here to answer this week's question. Here is what she had to say: “The first and most important part about meeting your potential life mate is the energy you’re exuding. Everything from how you feel when you think about love to what you believe to be true about love all revolves around timing. Yes, timing! The one aspect about relationships that people don’t tend to consider. Your timing begins the very moment you start to truly believe in love, especially love for yourself. The moment you know and honor your value, men of all ages will notice, because you radiate that ‘je ne sais quoi’ that people are attracted to. What I see happening for many singles is that they exude energy that states their fears, whether that’s unhealed childhood or adult trauma or a lack of faith that love can happen for them. The world picks up on this energy and sends a subliminal signal that says, ‘I’m not safe to approach and I don’t believe love is going to happen for me, so don’t bother.’ Here’s the great news, regardless of age, gender or background: love is waiting for you! Think about what you truly love to do — are you an art fanatic? Do you enjoy cooking or being outdoors? Look inside yourself and identify activities that truly make you happy, not just things you think you need to do or places you think you’ll find love. When you’re staying true to yourself, you’ll find that love is waiting for you. A great place to meet people is at church or your place of religious practice — you’ll already have one thing in common! I also recommend tapping into your personal interests. Wine tastings, cooking classes and philanthropic events for organizations that you support are great places to meet men. Think about what it means to love yourself — what do you need to change to reach a place of pure self-love? Have you always wanted to excel in yoga? Join a class! Learn more about wine? Take a wine tour! You may just find someone on the same path to happiness as you. Why not attend a motivational seminar? You will be in a safe and open place surrounded by others who have similar life goals and values — a great place to meet a potential romantic interest! If you’re more career focused at this time, become a mentor for young entrepreneurs or students. That is a great way to give back to the next generation of founders and CEOs, and you open the door to meet fellow business owners who want to give back to a younger generation.”   #TBT June 12 was the 51st anniversary of Loving v. Virginia, the landmark Supreme Court decision that declared all laws against interracial marriage unconstitutional in the United States. In celebration of that monumental day, we compiled 19 photos of interracial couples that you wouldn’t have seen 51 years ago. 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