| No Images? Click here  A few weeks ago, we asked divorced men what they would have done differently in their marriages. Now, we turn to women: Looking back — with the benefit of hindsight ― what would they have changed about their relationships?Here’s one choice snippet: “I ended our marriage because it seemed like the only way out of the stressful life I had created. I was so bitter and angry towards a person who just could not understand why. Looking back, all I had to do was say the words to my ex-husband, ‘I need help.’ I know now that if I had communicated my feelings, we might have had a better chance at marital life.” Go here for more.Xo, Ashley Rockman In case you missed it
 Ask an expertA reader writes, “How do you deal with someone who likes to tell you what to do and always has to be right? How can I handle this without lashing out and making them wrong, as then I am being the same way?”Washington DC-based psychotherapist Elisabeth J. LaMotte, founder of the DC Counseling and Psychotherapy Center, answers this week’s question. Here’s what she had to say:“I completely agree that lashing out is never the most productive approach, and it is probably beneath you to conduct yourself in this manner. Your question depends a lot on who this person is. If this person is not important to you and you do not need to deal with him or her, it may be wise to take some space and put your emotional energy elsewhere. If this is a romantic partner, a close friend or a relative, and your care about this person, tell them how you feel.The next time you feel micromanaged, take a deep breath and say something like this:‘I care so much about you and I value our relationship. But in this moment I feel micromanaged and it is very unpleasant. I understand that I may be approaching this situation differently than you, and you may genuinely have a better way, or a way that is better in your opinion. But I would like to feel respected in my ability to handle this in the way that is best for me rather than in the way that is best for you. I think I would feel closer to you if I felt like it wasn’t so easy to get it wrong in situations like these. Do you think we could work on this part of our relationship?’When it comes to ‘right’ and ‘wrong’, there is never a grand prize for winning an argument. We all have ways we can improve. The key is to talk about yourself, own your possible part in the equation and consider the other person’s ego. ‘I’ statements are always preferable to ‘you’ statements. And curiosity and kindness are always more productive than volatility.”
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