| No Images? Click here  For many people, orgasms are great but fairly predictable; once you figure out how to reach “the big O” — either on your own or with a partner — you tend to follow that process over and over again. There’s the buildup, the contractions and then an overall feeling of pleasure and relaxation.What you may not know is that some unexpected things can occur post-climax, like a sudden headache, sneezing or flu-like symptoms (how’s that to dampen the mood?) Go here for our list of six surprising things that can happen to your body when you have an orgasm. Hey, they make good fun facts for your next dinner party (and if they’ve happened to you, know you’re not alone!)Xo, Ashley Rockman In case you missed it
 Ask an expertA reader writes, “My boyfriend and I live together and have overcome some major ups and downs in our relationship. I have always been the breadwinner in my relationships (and I don't mind that) but my boyfriend is talking marriage and I made it very clear that until he gets a job and helps out, I won't marry him. I literally had to force him to get a job and now that he has one, he still doesn't contribute to the bills or rent and expects me to be his wife. Am I wrong for denying him and wanting him to do more? How can I encourage him to help out?”Washington DC-based psychotherapist Elisabeth J. LaMotte, founder of the DC Counseling and Psychotherapy Center, answers this week’s question. Here’s what she said:“Why do you question such well-founded concerns and why is this question framed in terms of what your boyfriend is denied? It is obviously reasonable to delay marriage to someone who needs to be forced into employment and who is stingy with his overdue resources. The impulse to delay marrying this guy is quite clear. What is less clear is why you are with him in the first place. Are the ups and downs you reference related to a pattern of betrayal? If so, what keeps you in this relationship? Was he employed when you met? If not, what appealed to you about dating someone unemployed when you seem to value hard work?Best-case scenario, does your boyfriend suffer from a chronic life-threatening illness or some unmentioned adversity that explains his under-functioning? If not, what qualities sustain such an unbalanced union? You mention a pattern of out-earning your partners, but being the breadwinner is different than choosing a partnership where you have to force someone to work and where the ethos of sharing is chronically one-sided.I’m concerned that you may have a pattern of choosing unsuitable partners. Take a step back and ask yourself if this guy is proving himself worthy of your hard-working, generous approach to relationships. Make a list of the qualities you value most in a life partnership. Does this guy possess any of the qualities you prioritize when you envision your future? Take a good look at his laziness and ask yourself if you are up to spending your life with someone you have to force into employment. His distaste for hard work is not likely to change much over time, and the idleness may eventually become even more noticeable and burdensome once children are in the picture.If my hunch regarding a pattern of choosing substandard relationships strikes a chord, please spend a month or two in individual therapy with a skilled therapist before you agree to marry.”
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