| No Images? Click here   Are you constantly falling for the wrong person? You know the type: emotionally unavailable, with different interests and aspirations than you? Modern dating is no easy feat, but it’s possible that you’re setting yourself up for failure from the get-go.How? Often we search for the absolute perfect person, when that person doesn’t exist.“People who are looking for their ‘perfect match’ are unknowingly positioning themselves into a long-term season of singledom, wrought with disappointment,” Jennifer Behnke, a therapist in South Florida, told us. “No one is perfect. No relationship is perfect. You must be willing to balance having expectations while also accepting your partner for who they are.”Read on for six other reasons you’re attracting the wrong people.Xo, Ashley In case you missed it
 Ask an expertA reader writes, “How do you help a friend who's spent roughly a year trying to decide if she should stay in her relationship or not? Our friend group has been as supportive as possible, and try to help her hash out the pros and cons of staying and going, but we're all starting to sound like broken records!”Alicia H. Clark, a psychologist based in Washington, D.C., answers this week’s question. Here is what she had to say:“Supporting a friend in making a tough decision is one of the harder things we do as friends, especially when our friend might have a hard time making decisions. It is hard to stand by watching someone struggle and feel like there is nothing you can do to help. If you feel like a broken record, this can be a signal that the conversation has tipped out of balance. Perhaps the conversation is too focused on facts and thoughts at the expense of her feelings, or the reverse, with too much talk of feelings rather than the practicalities at hand. Or perhaps the imbalance is in trying too hard to find solutions instead of simply witnessing her deep and confusing ambivalence.“Keep in mind your job as her friend isn’t to get to an answer so much as to accompany her along the way. When you start feeling frustrated and stuck, know you are picking up on exactly how she feels: frustrated and stuck. These are often signs that it is time to recommend she seek professional help. In the meantime, the safest most effective strategy is simply to try more empathy. Mirroring back your best understanding of her experience can help her see her experience from a different perspective. But most of all, empathy sends the powerful message that no matter what she decides, she is not alone."
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