| No Images? Click here  If you’ve made it past the seven-year-itch in your marriage, you may think you’re in the clear. We hate to be the bearer of bad news, but that’s simply not the case. Marriages take work, year in and year out, and there are some common problems that arise after 10 years together you’ll want to be aware of.We asked therapists to share the problems that come up most often in their offices at around a decade of marriage. One common complaint? Your once-hot sex life has burned out.“Usually sexual intimacy doesn’t just suddenly stop but rather, like many things, over 10 years it just becomes less and less,” therapist Kurt Smith said. Here are some tips to combat that and the other common problems that tend to pop up.Xo, Ashley Rockman In case you missed it
 Ask an expertA reader writes, “Between my family and my boyfriend's family, I feel that we were pulled in so many directions this holiday season and committed to too many plans. What's your advice for dividing up the holidays next year or carving out some time for ourselves?”Washington DC-based pyschotherapist Elisabeth J. LaMotte, founder of the DC Counseling and Psychotherapy Center, answers this week’s question. Here’s what she said:“The solution to your over commitment will flow from developing the ability to set some clear boundaries. It sounds like this may be the first holiday season that you and your boyfriend navigated as a couple. It also sounds like the people who love you are planners who want to include you and also wanted a chance to enjoy the two of you as a couple. Keep in mind that they probably suggested time together from a place of love, not a place of hostility.Consider that the root of this dilemma does not stem from the people who wish to be in your presence. It is time to learn to say ‘no’ and set limits with your time and your emotional energy. It is reasonable to turn down any future invitation by saying something like this: ‘We would love to, but we have plans every other night that week and we need a chance to recharge. We would love to find a time to get together after the holiday season.’ It is equally reasonable to make healthy scheduling boundaries your New Year’s resolution and begin planning a trip that carves out time for romance and downtime next holiday season. Many vacation resorts do not require a deposit to book a year in advance. Let your families know ahead of time and explain that you feel grateful to have so many warm invitations but you also need down time to reconnect and recharge.Social worker and best-selling author Brene Brown defines boundaries perfectly as a clarification of ‘what’s okay and what’s not okay.’ For some research-based inspiration, watch her terrific (and brief) discussion about why boundaries are psychologically essential.”
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