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 Ask an expertA reader writes, “I live with my boyfriend and make more money than him. I don't mind being the breadwinner in the relationship and we've worked out a system where we share a joint household account and I pay the rent and he covers household expenses; it's not even, but it makes sense with our salaries. Lately, I've noticed that he's used money in there for other things like clothes and entertainment without asking. How should I have a conversation with him about this?”Mabel Yiu, a marriage and family therapist who founded the Women’s Therapy Institute in Palo Alto, California, answers this week’s question. Here’s what she had to say:“It’s great that both of you have worked out an equitable solution in your joint finances. You are right, not everything needs to be hair-splittingly equal. I am curious, do you want him to ask you for permission or to discuss with you before making a spending decision?Asking for permission implies that there is a hierarchy between you two where you, the breadwinner, is in a higher pecking order. I don’t imagine this would make anyone feel equitable and I would advise against telling your boyfriend to ask for permission. If you are hell-bent on his asking, it may be worthwhile to explore internally where this viewpoint comes from. Is this something you learned? Is it about respect?Now may be a good time to open up the books and have an honest discussion about the overall budget. Many couples define the communal spending as instances where both of them share the burden and then for personal expenses, each is responsible for his/her own. Perhaps that can be an option for you two.Instead of having him to ask before spending, make it a partnership where both of you make a pact to discuss with each other about out-of-ordinary expenses or when borrowing from each other.”Do you have a question you want answered by our experts? E-mail it to me at relationships@huffpost.com.
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