Have you ever wondered how often married couples have sex?

And does that number change after 5, 10, 20 years together? No Images? Click here     Last month, we let you know what men often say about their partners in therapy. But we couldn’t leave you hanging without finding out women’s top complaints to their therapists, too. After all, despite the polished version of these problems you may hear from friends, therapists are privy to the raw, unfiltered issues that people encounter in their relationships day in and day out. One common complaint? Many women feel their partners aren’t pulling their weight around the house or with the kids. And even when their partners do pitch in, the mental load still falls on the women’s shoulders. “The mental workload is a real-life phenomenon that refers to the invisible work of being the ‘knower’ and ‘manager’ of the household,” marriage and family therapist Jennifer Chappell Marsh told us. “Women are expected to notice and delegate when the groceries are low, organize the social calendar, plan for child care, schedule doctor appointments, meet school obligations and buy family or friends gifts. Sure, women can ask for their partner’s help, but it still means that they are in the managerial role and they risk being labeled as a ‘nag.’” Here are the other top complaints. Xo, Ashley Rockman   In case you missed it There is so much more to BDSM than what you may have seen in “Fifty Shades of Grey.” If you’re curious about dipping your toe into BDSM and not sure where to begin, we have a primer on everything you need to know.       #TBT In any relationship, how often a couple has sex ebbs and flows. There are conflicting schedules to contend with, changing priorities (hello, kids) and the natural flunctuations in sex drive that get in the way of doing the deed. But couples who have been married 5, 10 and 20 years must have different amounts of sex, right? What about 30 or 40 years? We spoke to 11 couples about what’s “normal” for them. This is what they told us. Links we love: 10 Things To Know About Going Down On A Woman, According To Queer Women Here's What Those Job Euphemisms On Dating Apps Actually Mean Husband And Wife's Comics Show What Marriage Looks Like While Pregnant    .     👋You may have noticed our website is now www.huffpost.com. Don't worry, it'll still be the same HuffPost you know and love, just with a new URL. Make sure to update your bookmarks!   HuffPost is now a part of Verizon Media Group.  On May 25, 2018 we introduced a new Oath Privacy Policy which will explain how your data is used and shared. Learn More. No moon dust. No B.S. Just a completely essential daily guide to achieving the good life. Subscribe here. Like what you see? Share it. Can't get enough? You'll also love HuffPost's Entertainment newsletter. ©2019 HuffPost | 770 Broadway, New York, NY 10003 You are receiving this email because you signed up for updates from HuffPost Feedback | Privacy Policy | Unsubscribe    . - - Preferences  |  Unsubscribe