| No Images? Click here   Snooping on a partner’s phone is as easy as a few finger taps, and if you haven’t done it, you know someone who has. According to a 2014 survey by Avast, an antivirus software company, 1 in 4 women and 1 in 5 men have secretly checked a partner’s phone. But what does it mean when someone snoops?“It says that you don’t trust that what your partner tells and shows you is who they really are, and that their true self is reflected in their communication and searches on their phone,” psychologist Ryan Howes told HuffPost.Marriage therapists gave us the lowdown on snooping and answered our top question: Is there ever a scenario when it’s OK? Here’s what they had to say.And on the subject of relationship conundrums, this story on the questions you should be able to answer about your partner is worth a read.Xo, Ashley Rockman In case you missed it
 Ask an expertA reader writes, “My question pertains to friends, family and significant others: How do I kindly set boundaries with people who ask too much of me and my time?”Psychologist Alicia H. Clark, the author of Hack Your Anxiety, answers this week’s question. Here’s what she had to say:“Setting boundaries with friends and family can be tough, especially with people who tend to ask too much of you. They ask, you comply. It’s a pattern you have unwittingly created together, and the pull to maintain it can be powerful. But maintaining these unhealthy dynamics is neither healthy nor do they work. The more you overextend, the more anxiety and resentment you feel, making you uncomfortable and the dynamic less stable.And this is the great news. The fact that you are irritated and worried how to set boundaries is your anxiety working for you—nudging you to pay attention to this problem you care about and take action. All these feelings can help if you channel them into taking a risk and trying a new strategy.My best advice for setting boundaries follows the ‘sandwich rule’ of putting the negative between two positives:
It sounds like you are feeling stretched and could use some help unloading the dishwasher. Unfortunately, I can’t help this morning since I am pressed for time, too. I really appreciate you doing what you can to clear it. (Honest, not passive aggressive, smile)It sounds like meeting for dinner would work better for you today. But unfortunately, I can’t make that work. I hope we can reschedule for another time.Expect them to be surprised, and even not to like your new behavior, but don’t confuse their resistance with your doing the wrong thing. You are simply changing what was a stable (but unhealthy) dynamic for the better and doing so the best you can.Remember, your anxiety is there to help you. Next time it fires and nudges you to try something new, go ahead and try. Nothing will change until you do.”Are you dealing with a relationship issue? Reply to this e-mail and we’ll tackle it in an upcoming newsletter.
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