| You may be familiar with love languages — the idea that in relationships, people tend to express love to a partner in the way they’d personally like to receive it. We’ve featured the concept on HuffPost (and in this newsletter!) quite a bit; here’s how to determine which of the five love languages resonates most with you.Attachment theory is a relationships concept you may have heard less about, but it can be just as telling. There are three main attachment styles — secure, anxious and avoidant — and they’re based on how comfortable you are with intimacy and how preoccupied you are with your relationship overall. Your attachment style says a lot about your relationship patterns and behaviors and can be helpful in understanding why you act the way you do when coupled up. Take this test to figure out your attachment style and read more about why it matters here.Xo, Ashley Rockman There’s truth to the expression “out of your league:” A new study found that dating “leagues” do exist, and most online daters are trying to connect with people outside of theirs. Researchers analyzed thousands of messages between nearly 200,000 straight men and women and found most online daters tend to message people exactly 25 percent more desirable than they are. But how did they determine desirability and what does this all really mean? We break it down.
A reader writes, “What's a nice and constructive way of telling a dear friend that her taste in men is terrible and that every new boyfriend has red flags?”
Mabel Yiu, a marriage and family therapist who founded the Women’s Therapy Institute in Palo Alto, California, answers this week’s question. Here’s what she had to say:“It’s great that you are watching out for your friend. You say she has bad taste in men, but by whose standard are you making that statement? Although your intentions may be good, constructive criticism is a better fit for the workplace than in the dating world, unless, perhaps, when it’s specifically asked for. And even then, the focus should be on being supportive rather than overtly critical.When you say bad taste, I am wondering if it’s more about how the men look physically or how the men behave? If she asks you about her men’s physical appearance, please look past the superficial and encourage her to see beyond the surface. If she cries on your shoulders about how Mr. Bad Boy has broken her heart, again, try to refrain from criticism.Friends are meant to support and even if she asks you why she has terrible luck with all these men, it might be wise to help her analyze her situation. You can ask her about what these guys have in common and what need she is trying to satisfy from these characteristics.If you are able to walk with her instead of pulling her down, your conversation with her will be much more fruitful. Good luck and I am rooting for you!”  The cutest wedding guest award goes to… these pups. We compiled 32 photos of dogs at weddings that are sure to put a smile on your face. Check them out. HuffPost is now a part of Oath and a part of Verizon. On May 25, 2018 we introduced a new Oath Privacy Policy which will explain how your data is used and shared. Learn More.No moon dust. No B.S. Just a completely essential daily guide to achieving the good life. Subscribe here. Like what you see? Share it.©2018 HuffPost | 770 Broadway, New York, NY 10003
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