Sex toys, sex fantasies and sex workers

They’re all in this week’s newsletter No Images? Click here     Coming at you with some sex education this week. And I’m not talking about some birds and the bees nonsense your parents likely fumbled through. First up, we asked husbands and wives to tell us the things they didn’t learn about sex until they got married — here’s what they said. We then turned our attention to sex workers and asked them about the sex fantasies their clients request most frequently. From threesomes to “sissification,” here’s what professional escorts and dominatrixes had to say. Lastly, there are a lot of lists online about sex toys for women, but not so many for men. We sought to change that with this list of the 10 best sex toys for men, according to sex therapists. Xo, Ashley Rockman   In case you missed it For our next original comic, illustrator Dami Lee perfectly captures what it’s like when your S.O. is positively terrible at taking photos of you. Check it out. Ask an expert   A reader writes, “What's the best way to bring up signing a prenup to my fiancé?” Mabel Yiu, a marriage and family therapist who founded the Women’s Therapy Institute in Palo Alto, California, answers this week’s question. Here’s what she had to say: “Talking to your fiancé your desire to have a prenuptial agreement doesn’t have to be difficult. Let’s be real: all marriages end in either death or divorce. It is essential to talk about these adult topics before heading to the aisle. So, how do you approach such a sensitive topic? Prepare: Write down 10 reasons why you want a prenup on one side and then write down potential responses from your partner on the other side. Being mentally prepared for the discussion is vital. You need to have a deep understanding of what you want and why you want it. Also, anticipating your partner's reactions can help you maintain your cool. Don’t demand: Instead of saying, “We are getting a prenup,” say, “Let’s talk about a prenup...” Understand what your partner’s fear is. Remind them it’s ok to have concerns, but it’s also important to discuss these mature topics. Don't say your parents make you do it: This works in middle school, but it won't fly with another adult and it gives an impression that you can't make or stand by your decision. It’s not about you: A prenup isn't just about assets, it's about debt too. Make this about the partnership, that he/she can protect his/her assets and not having to take on your debt as well. Things start fresh when the union begins. While you are at it, plan for death too. Discuss what to do when one of you dies. Sorry for these downer topics but I assure you that things can only go up after these discussions.”   #TBT In our third installment of It’s Not You, It’s Me, reporter Brittany Wong talks to trans people about their experiences on dating apps. As you might expect, it’s not great. “Once men find out that the woman in the default picture is transgender, all respect flies out the window,” 22-year-old Dawn Dismuke said. “They start asking disrespectful questions like, ‘Do you still have your male parts?’ As if that’s ever OK to do!” Go here for more. Links we love: Men Of All Ages Share How They Define Emotional Infidelity How To Respond To People Who Shame You For Not Wanting Kids These 27 Tweets Are An Accurate Representation Of Married Life    .     HuffPost is now a part of Oath and a part of Verizon. On May 25, 2018 we introduced a new Oath Privacy Policy which will explain how your data is used and shared. Learn More. No moon dust. No B.S. Just a completely essential daily guide to achieving the good life. Subscribe here. Like what you see? Share it. Can't get enough? You'll also love HuffPost's Entertainment newsletter. ©2018 HuffPost | 770 Broadway, New York, NY 10003 You are receiving this email because you signed up for updates from HuffPost Feedback | Privacy Policy | Unsubscribe      . - - Preferences  |  Unsubscribe